I am feeling pushed out in a couple aspects of my life. Poor me eh?
First “that place”. I feel like I just don’t belong there anymore. I have nothing to post about anything. I don’t have anything in common with anyone there anymore – the ones that I did have been spending less time there, or jst upped and left. *ahem*
No posts are unique.. very little are positive, frankly it’s depressing. Marriages falling apart, cheating, fighting, lying….though I do love some of the people that are going through this, just not what I want to read about ALL the time. I mean I go there to escape life, to escape the stuff I don’t want to deal with and it’s all thrown in your face there. It’s really just a shitty soap opera there…. I mean if it’s got to be that nasty all the time, at least throw in a good cat fight once and a while.
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Carter’s becoming more and more independant. I try and play with him everyday; very little does he even want to interact with me anymore, lol – ditched by an 11 month old. Aren’t I cool!? LOL
He will laugh and play with me for liek 5 minutes then leaves me and ignores me. I just end up sitting there watching him play.
I am out of ideas… I don’t want to force him to interact with me, but at the same time I don’t want to go about my own things and just leave him there along to play. *sigh*
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Me and DH are not on the same wave length anymore either. I want to IMPROVE my lifestyle, get out, walk, visit people, swim, you know, enjoy life. He on the other hand likes to come home and sit infront of the TV from the moment he gets home until the moment he goes to bed.
I am somewhat of a dependant person. I like to do things together; I’m not one to go for a hike in a conservation area alone, KWIM?
I just wish that he would enjoy life WITH me. I want to do things as a family, not alone all the time.
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See Sam…we have much more in common than we realized! My DH is the same and I have decided to become the change I wish to see in him…let me influence him, let me be the leader and the strong one. Believe me I get sick and tired of being the strong one…I want him to be the strong one and take the lead…but I think what you and I are describing are complacent husbands **sigh**
As for “that place” you took the words right out of my mouth. And I even tried today to make some interesting posts about health/life but not very many takers…I feel as if I have outgrown there, but old habits are hard to break LOL We shall see.
Sam, you’re going to have to face it…you’ve raised a very independent little boy. But, even independent boys need their mommies from time to time…
As for “that place,” I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels like this. I just can’t type another “Woo Hoo” post (unless of course we’re talking about Tina’s weight loss!!!). And I can no longer pretend that I support some of those people.
LOL Mare. I am not there anymore so no worry. No more woohoo.
It’s easy to leave and hell if I can do it – ANYBODY can. haha. Just give all your friends your myspace url and then remove the “that place” link from your favourites. And don’t go. :0)
Just coming here takes up half the time I used to spend refreshing and browsing at that place ~ waiting for a good post…it’s so much better here. Only thing is that people don’t leave comments. I see that my blogs are being read – but not many comments!!!! It can feel kind of lonely.
As for Carter I think as they get close to 12 months they really do get more independant. It’s natural. From his point of view that is a really wonderful thing. From yours maybe not so much…you are also feeling the pain of having to return to work soon which is probably making it feel worse ~ for you.
It’s gogin to be a difficualt transition…but eventually you will both adjust. I have seen it with friends. before youknow it – you are on mat leave with your second one…hugs
(Mare doesn’t know how to get to anyone else’s blog’s except for the ones that Sam has linked on her blog page.)
mare…youhave to be on myspace for mine…and then I add you as a friend…but you say you can’t *sniff*
I haven’t been back to ‘that place’ for any length of time in a few weeks, and the way you guys are talking about it, it’s making me not want to get in a hurry to go back.
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The fact that Carter is so independent shows how great of a mommy you are, BE PROUD! I know you are, lol…it is hard watching them grow, especially when they do more and more things on their own that they used to need you for.
And on the husband front…totally been there. lol. Clint would be perfectly happy just staying at his computer, or watching TV all day–I long for conversations, outings, etc…it never happens. *sigh* No advice for you there but I can sympathize! *HUGS*
my husband and i are the same exact way sam! its quite sad, if you think about it…im treying to expand my life, and hes fighting it.
im glad carter is growing up and getting more independent, but its so rough to watch them at the same time!
im starting up a blog here so you can keep in touch with me…
Oh dear god… Chris is the SAME was as your DH. God… I just wish when IIIII want to go somewhere, he’d jump and say, “Hey, yeah! Let’s go!!” Instead it’s, “Ugh… No, I’m tired. I don’t want to do anything.” BUT, when he wants to go somewhere, I MUST say Yes, hunny sure let’s go! Or, I get in t.r.o.u.b.l.e. Not literally… but he’s pissed off for the rest of the night.
Men aren’t fair.
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