Before having children I envisioned what it would be like. Sharing responsibilities, working together as a team, cuddling in bed on a Sunday morning… you know, that stuff. For the most part, I thought that we’d have the same parenting styles, we’d agree to disagree on some things, but in the end it would be what was best for our child, right? Sharing our thoughts, compromising, and working as. a. team. I don’t think I could have been more wrong.
Lately it seems as though it’s one against the other. We’re constantly butting heads about the most mundane circumstances. It takes a toll on the whole “parenting as a team” concept. For instance; as of late I feel that Carter has been watching more then adequate amounts television. That’s because his father lives and breathes for TV. I’m not knocking TV because I enjoy a good day or two of mindless vegging; but when it’s used for constant child care I’m starting to feel guilty about not paying it for taking care of my son.
Mike sees nothing wrong with this. He has no qualms about planting his ass in front of the television from the very second he gets out of bed until the minute he goes to bed; all the while, Carter is right there with him.
I have started seriously bitching about this and it’s beginning to strain us. I try and play with Carter; colour, play leggos, whatever; but when he hears that fucking TV he’s right there, eye glued to it like they are sucking the very being from his little toddler body. It’s nearly impossible to interact with him when the TV’s on.
Mike won’t compromise either. Tonight Carter was getting in the way of unpacking the groceries – well, he was also unpacking – the cupboards, the fridge, the bags… Mike had enough and took him into the living room, turned on the TV and walked out. I asked calmly for him to turn off the TV and bring Carter back into the kitchen, seat him at the table and give his paper and a crayon. Nope. “TV’s fine.” was his response. I digress. Sometimes I have to pick and choose my battles. I wasn’t in the mood tonight. This is something that has to be addressed though, and I’m just not sure how to deal with it.
Anyone that’s been-there-done-that who can shed some light??
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