May 17th, 2007
I thought I didn’t care. I thought that it wasn’t a big deal. But it was. Mike totally forgot my birthday yesterday. I talked to him three times on his way home, he then called back and said, ‘Oh, by the way, happy birthday” so nonchalantly. I was more hurt then mad.
Growing up my family always made a big deal about birthdays, any holiday for that matter. Valentine’s, anniversaries, Easter, etc. Everything was completely overdone and embellished beyond belief. It was something that I really enjoyed; times that I have very fond memories of. I am not trying to sound ungrateful, needy, or pretentious because he forgot. I would give him the benefit of the doubt had he not “forgotten” 6 out of 7 years.
I think I am most hurt by the fact that I go out of my way to make his birthday special. Mike’s a Christmas baby; so all through his childhood he was forced to celebrate his birthday on his sisters - two weeks before. No one remembered his birthday at Christmas gatherings because it’s Christmas! no cards, no nothing. So for the past 7 years I have made sure that there was cakes, gifts and all around concentration on his birthday just as much as Christmas. My fuckin’ birthday is not even near a holiday, there’s no reason to forget.
You know, even when I called him on it he blew it off as I was over reacting? Yup. He didn’t understand why I was getting so bent out of shape about it, it’s jut another day. Muthafucka!
Just another day. TO HIM. That’s the difference. It means something to me. He knows that it means something to me. That doesn’t matter though. That’s his selfish way of thinking. It’s not important to him, therefore it’s not important at all. Like so many other aspects of our life. If he sees no significance, well then; it’s just not significant.
Apparently this is going much deeper then just a birthday. I hope you’ve caught on to that. It’s not a superficial thing like I expected a gift or something. Maybe the gift of respect, understanding, acknowledgment.
I think I need a drink.
The good thing? After I coerced it out of him, Carter mumbled something about “Happy Birthday Mama!” which came out like “Hubba dah-dah mama!” *swoon* What an adorable little monster.
I’m sorry he forgot your birthday. I totally understand. (((hugs)))
May 17th, 2007 at 9:09 am
1) Happy belated birthday!
2) My ex was the same way, it was just another day. Fucker.
3) Sometimes, men act like children. Speaking of,
4) What an absolutely adorable child!
5) Thanks for making me a regular read-stop! and
6) I blogrolled you
You’ve got some fantastic stuff of your own here!!!
May 17th, 2007 at 10:52 am
Well, I have never been give a birthday card in the 12 years I have been with Joe…he has occasionally taken me to dinner for my birthday, but he has informed me many times that birthdays (and other special days) are for kids! WHATEVER! Then why the fuck do we make a big ta do for his daughter’s 28th birthday. 28 surely isn’t a kid anymore!
See, my family was like yours about such days; so this thinkgthat all such days are for kids just PISSES me off! Oh, I do get Christmas, but that is the extent of any recognition. And I too make big deals of special days–I am sure you recall all my anniversary trip plannings.
So anyways, you are not alone, Sam! I just say that it is up to us to raise our sons to know and do better so that their SO and wives feel valued and appreciated and special–even if just for a day
LOL
May 17th, 2007 at 10:56 am
Awwww Sam Im so sorry, not that it makes things any better, but Casey forgot mine this year too, I even went and bought my OWN birthday cake just to rub it in his face that he forgot!
Thanks for the congrats, finally after 3.5 years we are getting our miracle! I go for an ultra sound today to see if there is more then one :o) watch my blog for updates! Miss chatting with you!
May 17th, 2007 at 11:54 am
Awww…how sad!! I always make a huge deal out of my birthday and my boyfriend’s birthday, but he thinks they are “just another day” too. WTH is up with that?!!?
My boyfriend never really forgets, (how could he when I count down to it weeks in advance? *giggles*) but he always tells me I need to calm down about it. hehe.
I know it is late now, but…
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
May 18th, 2007 at 9:23 am