September 25th, 2007
i want you to want me.
these, friends, are VERY true words.
i, Ali of Cheaper than Therapy , have been happily married for almost 10 years. yes, it’s true. and that husband? he wants me, he needs me, he loves me, he begs me. he does all those things that cheap trick sings about.
shouldn’t that be enough? feeling wanted (and in my case over-wanted) by the love of your life?
no. it seems it’s not enough. at least not to me. or to most of my friends, for that matter.
there’s something about the attention of others that makes us feel, well, wanted. while the attention from our husbands is sweet, and certainly doesn’t go unnoticed, it’s ever-present. come on, how many of you have asked the question, “will you still love me if ________?” and how many husbands still say yes? ALL. well, certainly if they know what’s good for them.
unsuspecting strangers, like we saw on Bachelor: Freakshow Edition last night, wouldn’t necessarily still love you or want you if you, say, had webbed feet or something…or if you could turn your body into a pretzel. p>
There’s nothing quite like walking down the street and getting honked at, or whistled at, or even getting the up-and-down once-over and the smile. Unfortunately for me, i have yet to experience any of these ego-boosters.
yes, i realize that some women are reading this right now, gasping, shaking their heads all “i don’t like to be whistled at!” but, i assure you, they are lying. everyone likes to be noticed. it’s as simple as that.
If you are a reader of my site, you’ll know that i, like most women i know, have self-esteem issues. I see faults and flaws. I see lumps and creases.
but on sunday night, when we went out with friends, i decided to bring out the big guns, literally. we were only going out for dinner, but i had spent the entire day in lulus and a hat, and decided i wanted to look nice (also, the week before i had completely underdressed for the Yorkville crowd and i wanted to make up for it). I wore a shirt that’s been hanging in my closet forever. i didn’t have the guts to wear it. and i didn’t even know how to wear it. but i brought it out, and wore it. and my husband couldn’t stop staring at me all night. i rendered him speechless. i NEVER do this.
and for the first time, probably ever, i turned to him and said, “i am smokin’ hot for a mom of three.” and i really meant it.
so, now i can proudly allow my son to wear this shirt to school:
and i will sit and wait for my honks and whistles…
Yay for feeling awesome about yourself!
Hubs has gotten me in the routine of having a … (sigh, redneck alert) pocket knife attached to my waist. We were going to a wedding last month and I was in an actual dress with no waistband. Like a smartass, I clipped it to the center of bra.
When I showed him, you would have thought I was a Baywatch babe - who knew?
(and that Old Navy tshirt is fantastic!)
September 25th, 2007 at 10:23 am
I love those moments, where you step out of your ‘mom attire’ and step into the person who is still lurking underneath…
September 25th, 2007 at 2:33 pm
How do you feel about girl honks & whistles? Cus I’D crash MY car rubber neckin’ a good look at your fine self!
September 25th, 2007 at 4:05 pm
Ali you are smokin hot PERIOD.
September 25th, 2007 at 4:28 pm
Ali, you’re beautiful, but on Sunday, you were sizzlin’. Enough to make any guy drool and any woman jealous. Holy cleavage, Batman!! Good thing the husband is working out to ward off any unrulies. Look but don’t touch…that’s what I always say.
September 26th, 2007 at 6:52 am
You’re such a tease! What about a picture of your shirt?!
You both have and award to pick up over to my blog btw
September 26th, 2007 at 8:57 am
an award, not and award. Doh!
September 26th, 2007 at 8:58 am
WTG for wearing that shirt! And that t-shirt you’re posting a pic of…awesome. BUT…. I want to see YOUR smokin’ hot mom shirt!!!!!
September 26th, 2007 at 9:02 am
Ha! Love it!! And I’m completely on board with you getting honked at…I always used to roll my eyes and gag, but now I dream of it…wish for it!
September 27th, 2007 at 12:26 am
You go girl! Way to be confident. :o)
Love it!
September 29th, 2007 at 8:44 pm
That shirt rocks!!!
September 29th, 2007 at 11:38 pm
That shirt rocks.
October 1st, 2007 at 9:18 pm
this was such a great post… so often we women are allowed to feel horrible about ourselves and that is a tragedy. Embrace your hottness, we’ve all got it!
October 5th, 2007 at 11:09 am