Thank you for the encouragement on my last entry. As you can tell, I’ve been more then a little emotional over the past week, give or take, and it’s getting to me. The stress of Christmas, sick child, absent spouse, and being pregnant and TIRED! has taken a lot out of me.
I know I am not cut out to be a single parent. I have more and more respect for my mother, who raised to little children with little help while carrying the brunt of household duties as well as working full time. It’s no easy feat., and I really look up to those that have it in them to do it all. It’s not so much the physical toll as it is emotional. There are so many ups and downs throughout the day with a toddler, THEN to have household and marital stress on top of that is a little much to bear some days. It’s something ALL us parents tend to deal with at one point or another.
Yet, sitting home three days straight, without leaving the house – with a sick toddler who’s been pissing out his ass about every hour – tends to blur your perception of being a parent. The good times are forgotten and dwelling on the bad takes the forefront. Personal outlook creates the situations, and I just have to clear my head and remember that THIS isn’t forever. I. Can. Do. It.
As for today, we are keeping warm inside as we are hammered by this snowstorm. I woke to a relatively empty driveway and light flurries, a little disappointed by all the hype of this “Storm of the Century” only to have it hit an hour later; now, it’s relentless.
I just hope Mike’s home to shovel us out so I can get the hell out of here tomorrow.
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Yes there’s nothing like a dose of cabin fever, galloping bottoms and no other adult around to make you really feel it. Hope he’s home soon safe and sound [hopefully holding a shovel]
Cheers
Maddy’s last blog post..Holiday [Christmas for some] meme
That’s so true…we tend to take on the mood of whatever is going on. You are right..it won’t last forever. I had to tell myself that every hour when Kyle was a newborn.
Brenda’s last blog post..A baby reindeer and a lost Santa
It is so easy to lose perspective, and I know what you mean about being a single parent. I don’t know if I could do it.
MammaLoves’s last blog post..Intervention Needed STAT!
I was thinking about you this weekend, because it’s been a while since you’ve been over at my place and I was wondering how you’re doing. And now I know.
The year I was pregnant with Oliver, and the year after, we did all of our Christmas shopping during the last week of Christmas. The first time around I was too sick to care about shopping and the second time around I was too sick to care about shopping.
Ho, ho, ho.
Anyway. Listen girl, I have had those same feelings you’re having right now. If you ever need someone to talk to, you know where to find me. I’m always here for ya, babe.
mamatulip’s last blog post..The one where I carp and complain (and swear) a lot
It’s good that you can at least take something good from all this, by finding a new appreciation for what your mother did.
Chris’s last blog post..Found Something I Wasn’t Hunting For
i definitely couldn’t be a single parent, and i have the ultimate respect for those who are.
i was 3 months pregnant with my second son at Christmas time (
all-day-long pukingmorning sickness for the first 6 months) when my first son was 7 months old. i know how hard it is to get anything done…it ain’t easy!btw, we got hit by the storm-of-the-century up here in Ottawa too. my hubby spent 5…count ‘em….5 hours shoveling our two-car driveway (he had to do it in stages, because it was just too much). we have a 5 foot wall of snow on the side of our driveway now! glad to hear you weathered the storm safe at home!
cate’s last blog post..warning – changes are afoot
I am also pregnant this Christmas with number 2, but the sickness passed a while ago. Thank Vishnu.
We didn’t get the storm up here in Timmins, but we get snow all. the. time. It was actually kinda nice that we didn’t have to shovel this weekend.
Oh wait, we did. Crap. Scratch that.
Mrs. Mustard’s last blog post..The B&B race continues
Hi Girly (I hope this will post),
I totally hear ‘ya about all of this. It’s the worst when they’re very sick, I call it peeing out of the butt too, yuck! Poor guy and you! And being preggo. AND working. I know it’s hard. I’m about to re-enter the workforce, we desperately need the money. And I do sometimes entertain the thought of being a single-parent (we have our problems too), the way I look at it sometimes when he’s driving me crazy is the only difference between me and a single-Mom is that I’m not working outside the home. I do everything else. ‘Cept I’m not preggo., that’s got to be rough, hang-in there
sending much love your way, Sam!
ali’s last blog post..in the mind of a toddler
hmm…my comment didn’t work…i just wrote that i was sending you much love, and i wish, a snowblower
ali’s last blog post..in the mind of a toddler
We’re in it too. Another 30 cm piled onto the last 40 from a coupel of weeks ago. The pile of snow on top of my patio table is almost as tall as my patio table! lol.
I feel lazy, blah, unmotivated and all I want to do is eat. So I am there with you.
Oh and Tony is in T.O. for 3 days so I hear ya on the single mom.
Maddy: Thanks for the kind words. There really is nothing worse then being stuck in the house with a sick and needy child. But we made it through, barely, are we’re both alive!
Brenda: Yup, just have to keep telling myself that it’s temporary. It’s. Only. temporary.
MamaLoves: Doesn’t the idea of having no one to dump a moody child on, or having the ability to say “Go ask your father” scare the crap outta you? It does me. LOL
mamatulip: I heart you so hard.
Chris: thanks! and you’re right. I totally see what my mom went through with a different perspective now. If she only knew. Ha!
cate: holy moley! 5 HOURS! I would have been sitting in my driveway crying if that were me.
Mrs. Mustard: Plus, it’s damn cold up there. Cold and snows all the time. I couldn’t take it. LOL
Annalise: Thanks for the comment, it’s nice to see you around again!
ali: they’re both there! LOL. Something fishy!!
Tina: too bad you’re so far, I’d love to commiserate with you!
Hang in there!
Having the spouse out of town is hard enough, add in a sick kid and it’s enough to send even those imaginary perfect parents over the edge.
Queen of Shake Shake’s last blog post..I May Be a Southerner but New Yorkers are Rude Assholes
Dealing with sick kids (and myself) here, too. AND we’re ice-bound in the house. It’s definitely enough to drive you mad.
Just found your blog through CLIQ. LOVE your photos.
Shannon’s last blog post..Ice and Illness Does Not Equal Exercise
This too shall pass. I just hope it passes quickly for the sake of your sanity
Chris Cactus’s last blog post..Jinglebell Rock
You absolutely can do it, but it doesn’t make the stress any easier to bear. I hope things get better… and quickly.
She Likes Purple’s last blog post..Early Christmas 2007
Hang in there Sammy…thinking of you…
Hope everything is okay. It’s weird not to see a post from you in a couple of days. Thinking about you and hoping everything is a-okay.
Jenn
Jenn’s last blog post..This is Why I Don’t Sleep Naked…
I get teh cabin fever thing – nonstop rain while Scout is out travelling … getting a full night of sleep …. ugh. Feeling your pain. Tewtally.
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Cabin fever sucks! I hope your days get better.
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Hoping all this is just a distant memory by now. I remember when one of my kids was small and sick having a conversation that went something like this with a friend – really opened my eyes –
Me: I don’t know if I can go to the meeting. One of the kids is sick.
Her: You’ve been home with her for two days now?
Me: Yeah.
Her: She has fever?
Me: Yeah.
Her: You’ve had to do all kinds of extra laundry?
Me: Yeah.
Her: And she’s all whiney?
Me: Yeah.
Her: That’s exactly when you need to get out of the house.
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