January 27th, 2008
Sorry for the sporadic posting and nothing of interest lately. I am really just not feeling it lately; in fact, I’m not feeling much.
Winter blues combined with seemingly endless illness has brought my depression on - full strength. I have no ambition to do anything, I find myself spending most of my time lazing on the couch or sleeping. I feel weighted down, like I’m just a burden on everyone.
Mike and I have been constantly bickering and arguing over the simplest things and it’s tiring - and trying. I can’t handle being called a nag and a bitch all. the. time. Even when - what I think - is a small task is requested of him, he loses his shit saying that I’m constantly nagging and never shut up. Maybe he’s right and I just don’t see it. I mean, I don’t think I’m asking too much of someone to bring the cars back in the driveway after he shovels instead of leaving them in the road. Or even a simple question like, “Did you change Carter’s bum after nap” has him exploding at me like I’m treating him like a child.
Yes, we’re both in rough places right now with him trying to quit smoking and me sick and pregnant, but it’s far more trying when we’re at each other like this all the time.
I’m seriously ready to pack my shit and leave for the next 4 months. I don’t know that I can continue to live like this. I want a marriage left once everything’s all said and done. I want a family for my children - not what we have at this moment.
So, that’s where I am. To save you the woe is me posts and, for me, the realization that everyone really has their own shit to deal with, my problems meaning very little … I’ll be here and there but for now, mostly, there.
We’ve all been there and we’re all here for you now. You know where to find me, sweetie…
Big hugs…
xoxoxo
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January 27th, 2008 at 5:34 pm
Ooohhhh…Sammy. I completely hear you. Stress can certainly bring out the worst in everybody and you are are going through a lot right now.
Andrew and I have been having some tough times too since moving, but I just remind myself that if you can get through the worst of it, you can certainly make for the long haul.
Hang in there. It’s a blip in the road of life that you will pull through.
xoxo
January 27th, 2008 at 6:15 pm
Oh that’s rough…him quitting smoking AND you pregnant at.the.same.time? WOW!
I’m sorry you are feeling down…I hope things work out better and soon!
Chin up!!
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January 27th, 2008 at 6:20 pm
My OB actually told my husband (at my 30-something-week checkup…) that we’d “reached the stage where nobody’s happy!”
It sucks. And my Mike’s the same way, as far as asking for menial stuff being “nagging”. I really hope things get better for you soon!
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January 27th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
Hang in there. Your problems *don’t* mean very little, they mean a lot — because we’ve got them, too, and sharing ‘em makes ‘em feel a little less horrible.
Take care.
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January 27th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
I’m sorry things are so tough right now.
Being pregnant is the pits that way. Lexi’s comment is really interesting - probably hits the nail right on the head. Hang in there and wishing you some easier days ahead.
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January 27th, 2008 at 9:28 pm
I’m sorry things are rough right now.
I just began crawling out of a nasty, funky rut. I’d been feeling so down and awful for the past couple of weeks.
I hope you’re feeling better soon.
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January 28th, 2008 at 1:20 am
I’m so sorry sweetie. It’s just a passing phase I’m sure. Between hormones and him quitting….yeah. Things are rough now but I know they won’t stay that way hon. Hang in there. I’m praying for you. (((Hugs)))
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January 28th, 2008 at 9:46 am
Sweetheart, no ones problems are any more or less important than what you’re going through right now. There’s no measuring stick for hard times and suckage.
Being pregnant and sick SUCKS. And it’s hard when you’re both in a bad place at the same time. My answer is to usually remind him that my hard time can’t be avoided at the moment and could he please man the fuck up and DEAL for a few months. Please?
But then, that’s probably why “her poor, poor husband” will be engraved on my tombstone.
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January 28th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Your problems are just as important as anyone elses. Quitting smoking is hard, but being pregnant and sick trumps it. Men can be a pain, they don’t understand what a rollercoaster being pregnant can be. Stick in there, When the new baby is, oh, 20 it will get better. Keep smiling.
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January 28th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
men are assholes. we should give ‘em up for good
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January 28th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time Sam. (((HUGS))) Chris and Mike should be related…Chris makes THE BIGGEST deal out of the simplest things sometimes. Its so hard to be treated like that and called those names… Some men don’t realize, either that or we are being mega bitches too, but that’s okay because we can be! *evil grin* Regardless, it makes for some very very difficult times.
Either way it really really sucks and I hope you have the strength and hope to get thru this too.
Chin up! Positive thoughts! And if you feel the need to vent, do it. We may have our own problems, but you know what? That’s what we are here for and that doesn’t make your problems ANY less important. You are there for us; we will be here for you.
January 29th, 2008 at 11:20 am
Take a break, Sam. Tend to yourself. And don’t worry about blogs and posts for a bit. We will all be here to check in and pick up reading again when you are feeling better. The cold months, being pregnant, a man giving up a hard-to-kick habit are enough to put anyone in a slump… but the sun is going to shine soon, the baby will be born, and that nasty habit will become a thing of the past… there is hope.
PS I take breaks and just read blogs sometimes… no pressure to post. Once in awhile I get inspired, other times it just feels good to laugh or cry or be informed.
Relax girl. You need to take care of yourself!
January 29th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Men are big babies. Mine does the same thing.
As for feeling crappy and just wanting to lay around, a friend of mine once told me that energy is like money … you have to spend it to get it.
I get like you quite often (and I’m not even pregnant!) but once you put your mind to getting up, showering, puttering around, going for a walk … whatever … you DO actually feel better. Honest.
I hope things improve sweetie.
And I’m not too far from you that I can’t come hit him in the head with a frying pan.
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January 29th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Oh … sucky.
I can relate. Really. The quitting smoking things turns everything into a disaster. Seriously. It’s not you.
Coffee (decaf if you wish) anytime you need to get out. I can bitch like there’s no tomorrow
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January 29th, 2008 at 4:50 pm
Oh I hope things settle down soon.
I was a complete nightmare giving up smoking and gave my poor family hell for weeks.
Hopefully your feeling better really soon, its just crappy when you feel so out of sorts and when you are also bickering all the time.
It feels like nothing will ever be normal again.
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January 30th, 2008 at 4:01 am
I’m sorry you’re going thru a tough time right now.
Not making excuses for hubby, but quitting smoking makes people evil.
Hang in there and I hope it gets better.
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January 30th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
I’m sorry you’re going through such a crap time right now…I went through a similar time with my husband not long after our son was born. He took everything I said as nagging…it was insane. It was sleep deprivation and depression and a bunch of things all rolled into one. We got through it and now I TRY to nag him to no avail.
It will get better.
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January 30th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Congrats on winning a RAP award, I can definitely see from reading even just a few of your posts just how deserving of it you are. I’m sorry you’re feeling down in the dumps lately and I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Unfortunately, I’m not married…nor am I pregnant so I don’t exactly know what you’re going to do.
Just keep trying to keep your head above the water, it’ll pay off in the end.
Much love, I’ll continue to read!
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January 30th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
you know what i’ve come to learn about “men?”… they fucking call you a NAG or a BITCH when you ask them to do the same thing more than once. IT IS BECAUSE THEY DIDN’T FUCKING DO IT THE FIRST TIME YOU ASKED THAT YOU HAVE TO ASK THEM AGAIN TO DO IT- THUS, BECOMING THE “NAG.” when the reality is that they’re just fucking lazy sacks- and if they would do it after you asked once, then you wouldn’t have to ask again- and so it’s all their fault in the first place. they just like to blame us.
could i talk in circles more? lol
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January 31st, 2008 at 3:25 pm
I’ve been thinking of you a lot lately, Sam. Hang in there…and listen, seriously, you know how to reach me if you need someone to talk to.
xo
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January 31st, 2008 at 3:45 pm
I just had a week like that. I have a bone disease in my hip (blogged about it ad nauseam), my husband had a sinus infection that kicked his ass, we’re both gearing up for weight loss surgery, oldest son just moved back home and the shit just hit the fan. Neither of us has felt well enough to take care of daily issues and I found myself really resenting him for not “being there” for me. Frankly, if I was also dealing with pregnancy hormones and that whole basket of crazy? I would have jumped.
I’m glad you can vent here and please know that the human condition is a challenge, at best.
Looking forward to better days for us!
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January 31st, 2008 at 5:36 pm
oohhh sorry to hear all of this, but I know I have been there myself, and I’m pulling for you!
January 31st, 2008 at 10:56 pm
Sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time Sam - I’ve been there and the truth is men sometimes just don’t get it. Quitting smoking’s gotta be rough though so hopefully it gets better soon…
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February 1st, 2008 at 11:13 am
Oh Sam, I’m sorry for all this rough shit going on. I hope your marriage can get well, soon and that you can get well, soon.
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February 1st, 2008 at 5:02 pm