April 11th, 2008
When I started my newly revised revision of 100 Things About Me I began with Things That Scare Me. Sure all those things are legit, they really do scare me.
But there’s one I didn’t add.
Meeting new people.
I loathe meeting new people. I worry about everything from the first impression when I walk in the room to trying to make small talk. What if it feels like we’ve known each other forever… but then it’s totally uncomfortable when we first meet and we have nothing to talk about. What about if they already know other people and I just end up sitting there? Alone. With no one to talk to.
Gah!
This fear has paralyzed me from attending previous blogger meet ups, meeting other people I’ve met through message boards and I HATE when I buy something from a classified or get something from free cycle and have to go pick it up.
This time I won’t let it get to me.
Tomorrow night one of my favourite-est bloggers, who I chatted with through emails a few times, is trekking across The Great White North to meet fellow bloggers in Toronto. There will be a number of my other favourite bloggers in the whole wide world there and I’m scared SHITLESS.
Scared.
But going.
I. will. face. it.
Ali and I have devised a pre-gathering plan to help us both over come our fears of walking into the room of people we’ve never met.
Did I mention that even though we talk A LOT, Ali and I have never met in person either?
So scared.
What if I forget what blog you write? What if I don’t read it? OMG. What if they HATE my blog!?
How are you with meeting new people? I’m sure many people are nervous their first meeting, be it a blind date, meeting an on-line friend or ever BlogHer events… how on EARTH do you do this without showing up completely frazzled, sweating profusely and cursing yourself for not wearing the other shirt that would hide your nervous pit sweat?
OMG.
Pit sweat.
I didn’t even think of that.
Can I blame it on the pregnancy hormones?
I think I’m sweating already.
I’ll be the huge pregnant lady, clutching her purse and hiding out by the bar - drinking water of course.
See you Saturday!
Hey calm down, take a deep breath and relax. You should worry too much about what other people think of you. Everyone at some point does a little worrying about what others will think of them. But it’s no big deal.
All you have to do is be yourself and everything will be fine.
Good luck on Saturday! =)
April 11th, 2008 at 9:46 am
If it makes you feel better, a LOT of people get nervous.
I’m always so surprised when I meet people and they say “well I was so nervous!!!”
Because me? I’m too stupid to get nervous. It never even occurs to me.
Miss Britt’s last blog post..Sucking. At Life.
April 11th, 2008 at 9:55 am
I’m a pretty confident and outgoing person and even I get nervous meeting new people. I worry if they will like me because I am a people pleaser. I worry that they will think I am not as funny as they might find me on my blog, etc.
So far every single meet up I have had from the internet to real life has been a smashing success. This excluded on line dating.
I’m sure you’ll feel right at home after a minute or two because you already “know” a lot of people that will be there!
April 11th, 2008 at 10:41 am
i got your back, miss. we are going to be awesome…even if we are all sweaty.
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April 11th, 2008 at 10:49 am
HA! welcome to why I crapped out on meeting Bossy.
You will be fine, I promise
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April 11th, 2008 at 11:08 am
I’ll be there too tomorrow night and believe me no one is as shy as I am!
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April 11th, 2008 at 11:34 am
I’ll see you at BFF and we can compare sweaty pits there okay?
April 11th, 2008 at 11:51 am
I worry about meeting people for the first time too, I usually find out I worried for nothing. Relax and breathe!!! And not like YOUR blog, oh please, how can they not love you!!!! (I’m a stalker again, DAMN!!!)
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April 11th, 2008 at 12:02 pm
Yay, you’re coming!
I always wish we had nametags to wear, BlogHer style, at these events, but honestly I never take it personally if someone doesn’t know me or my blog at these things, and I doubt you would, either. It’s going to be crazy fun! 25 local blogging broods in one room! Woo!
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April 11th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
Oh you’ll be fine, pit sweat and all. Have fun. They’re nervous, too.
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April 11th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
You’ll do wonderfully! Which is easy for me to say sitting here having not met anyone new for years. But good on you for going and have fun!
April 11th, 2008 at 9:18 pm
oh, I hear ya. I was all nervous to meet Lotus back in February. There’s always that fear of “what if the chemistry in person is different than online” or “is it weird I know when you have your period but I don’t know what your voice sounds like” kind of things.
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April 11th, 2008 at 10:16 pm
We’ll be there too - me and The Taxman. He’ll be one of the only boys. I’ll be the awkward shy one hiding behind him. Say hi to us!
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April 12th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
Good luck! I sweat like a whore in church when meeting new people.
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April 12th, 2008 at 3:38 pm
It was so great to meet you! Kgirl and I were admiring your supercute shirt on the way out, but you were distracted by T. (who wouldn’t be?) I wish we had more time to chat, so NEXT TIME. There just aren’t enough hours to chat with everyone. Which is why BFF will be so great.
I’m so glad I went to the first event so now I know I will know some people when I go. I;m so blown away by how fabulous everyone is that I just don’t let myself get nervous about going.
Seriously, I just cannot believe the amazingness that is the TO mommybloggers.
Ps gorgeous is a leeetle bit of a stretch, but thanks.
April 13th, 2008 at 10:16 am
There’s nothing to fear but fear itself. I’m sure everybody is nervous when meeting other people.
April 13th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
I wish I could have made the trek out there, too. But 27 days to go before this baby’s estimated time of arrival…not so much with the traveling.
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April 14th, 2008 at 10:12 pm
And I wasn’t even invited. WTF is up with that???
Have fun doll, you’ll be fine.
I’ll be making a birthday cake for the step-girl.
Fun times! LOL…
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April 17th, 2008 at 11:57 am
Cheddarfix: Thanks!
Miss Britt: I wish I was to stupid to get nervous!
Sizzle: It’s true, it does make it a little easier when you already have a bit of “history”. I was still nervous as hell though!
ali: You made me feel so much better then I would have if I walked in there alone!! Though, like I told you, I think I was more nervous about meeting YOU then walking into the room!
flutter: I probably would have crapped out too - but Canada’s just too far for her I guess, so I was safe!
Gabriella: You’re sooo cute!! It was really nice to meet you, hopefully we can chat more in Niagara - and maybe it won’t be so loud!!
Holly: Ha! Deal.
justmylife: You’re the best stalker EVAH!!
Not like my blog? Dude, sometimes I even hate it! LOL
Assertagirl: We should totally do name tags for BFF. I think I may actually talk to Sandra about that and maybe I’ll make them - we’ll see…
playgroupie: Me and my sweaty pits did have a fun time.
Maybe next I can tackle a North American wide tour like Bossy? Ha! I’d TOTALLY crap my pants, there’s no way.
Shania: Ya, I spend most of my time avoiding functions like this!!
Dawn: I KNOW!!! It’s like, I know about your marriage troubles, your period, your birth story… but the sound of your voice? Nope … It’s really odd!
Baby’s First: Very true!! By the sounds of it, everyone was pretty nervous! LOL
UrbanMummy: It was really nice to meet you, I just wish there was more time to actually talk with people!! We’ll definitely have to chat at BFF in the summer!!
ShamlesslySassy: Hahahaha, I always find church to be really really hot. Maybe that’s His way of telling me I don’t belong there. LOL
May 1st, 2008 at 10:24 am