Comments on: Finding The Way Back

By: Devilish Southern Belle

Devilish Southern Belle — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 03:48:44 +0000

I’d personally try a phone call or sending a letter if a visit isn’t possible. My families kind of fell apart after my grandfathers passed, too. Not to the extent that yours did – there were no accusations or harsh words – but no one gets together as a big family during the holidays anymore. The differences between then and now makes my childhood seem even farther off than it actually is. I need to call my Mawmaw – my only living grandparent – as well.

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By: Jenn

Jenn — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 03:48:38 +0000

Touching post. I’m with everyone here, try to do something about it…..

Jenn

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By: Brenda

Brenda — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 12:29:50 +0000

I'm so sorry hon. My husband's family went through something similiar. It's awful. Brenda's last blog post..Ggggrrrrr

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 04:21:55 +0000

My grandma died when I was 8. I watched our family implode. It sucked. And, to this day, my mom and her oldest brother talk, but that’s it.

That’s your grandma, you know, you shouldn’t let anyone stop you or even make you hesitate for a moment to continue that relationship! I’d give anything to talk to my grandma.

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By: candygirlflies

candygirlflies — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 04:09:27 +0000

Try thinking of it from another point of view:

… Grandma, who has been no doubt, pining (PINING!) for you and your son.

… and your child(ren) who need– and deserve– to have memories of her.

My grandparents are all gone, now. And not a day goes by that I don’t think of them and miss them.

Sam, I’d give anything for my children to have more time with my grandmothers… and especially my grandfather, who died not knowing that I was expecting his first great-grandchild (I was foolishly doing the wait-three-months thing… It’s something I’ll never forgive myself for).

I’m sure it’s complicated for you… and it will “stir the pot”. But oh, what you and your children have to lose if you DON’T.

Let us know what happens… and, as someone else said, please give her a hug, for those of us who don’t have our own Grandmas here anymore.

Love to you– xoxo CGF

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By: Gabriella

Gabriella — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 02:31:50 +0000

Hey fellow Hungarian, my dad and family are also hungarian!

Please call your grandma, go see her, the quarrel isn’t between the 2 of you, don’t let the bitterness ruin your special relationship, I bet it would mean the world to her and you.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 20:01:55 +0000

I loved reading about your grandparents. I hope you'll see your Grandma soon, so sorry for all the family tension keeping you two apart. Jennifer's last blog post..Athleteâ€™s Face

By: Miss Britt

Miss Britt — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 19:02:13 +0000

I think there are very few problems in life that can’t be solved with this philosophy:

“fuck ‘em”

I don’t know if that helps.

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By: justmylife

justmylife — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 19:01:14 +0000

My grandmother was Hungarian. First generation born out of Hungary.

My mom’s mom was the glue that held us all together. She had every holiday and we all showed up, no matter what. When she passed the family fell apart. Some fighting amongst the kids, mostly hurt feelings. I haven’t seen most of my cousins since her death 15 years ago. I have tried to find my way back, but hurt feelings run deep.

Can your grandma get out of the house? If so, go get her and let her spend the night with you, bonus, if mom can visit too. If not, just call and tell them you want to see your grandma, choose a time and have them clear out if thats the way it has to be.

No one should have to lose a grandparent twice. We got “custudy” of my granddaddy, we share, they just won’t come see him, it hurts him to think they don’t care. Don’t let them or anybody stop you from seeing her. Good luck.

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By: ali

ali — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 17:31:52 +0000

that’s tough. seriously. i kind of feel that way about my grandmother too. only she has Alzheimer’s.

hey…weird question for you..did you grandparents have a white room? i feel like all my friends with Hungarian grandparents all had white rooms.