June 9th, 2008
There’s so much going on these days that it’s really hard to keep up with a blog as well. I think about it daily and want to write, it’s just that trying to find the time to sit down and write has become quite a chore.
I’ve spent the last week feeling extremely guilty about the lack of time that I’ve had to devote to Carter. Since Hudson is a nursing machine, it feels as though Carter’s fallen to the wayside as I try and pay attention to his needs as well as constantly having a newborn latched to my boob. So this week, we’ve begun adding an additional day of daycare to keep Carter more active and engaged with other children as well as fill his day with activity rather then playing alone and watching hours of television. Not only is it better for him to have the structure and socialization, it gives me a chance to spend one-on-one time with Hudson, just like Carter got when he was an infant.
In some ways I feel as though I’ve taken the easy way out by sending my child off to his junior preschool class three days a week. It feels as though, I can’t cut it as a stay-at-home mom to two children (Ridiculous, right?) - even though I know it’s best for Carter to have his space and time away from us.
I sound like I’m trying to justify my reasons for him going to daycare still; I think I may also have guilt that I am.
I really can’t win. I feel guilty regardless of the choice I make.
All I know is my boys are damn cute.
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They are SO cute. Nothing makes my ovaries twitch like seeing sibling love.
Heather’s last blog post..Mother of the Year
June 9th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
I don’t know sweetie… they both look pretty happy to me.
And isn’t that the ultimate test of whether or not we’re “cutting it”?
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June 9th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Stop it! Quit being so hard on yourself. You are in a time of transition and adjustment. You are doing great.
zdoodlebub’s last blog post..Scenes from a Marriage
June 9th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
They are sooooo adorable. Good job Sam.
Don’t beat yourself up for your decision. You are doing what is best for your kids, your family and that makes you the greatest mommy those kids could ever ask for.
Now email me some pics of that baby of yours. My uterus aches…I need a fix.
Redneck Mommy’s last blog post..My Apologies, I’m Whining
June 9th, 2008 at 4:15 pm
I really think it’s all about making everyone happy. Right now… Zoe’s been in school 3 mornings a week (9-12). She’ll be off for the summer, including the month and a 1/2 after I give birth by c-section. I am already longing for school for her in September… 9-12 M-F. It will make for a happier everyone. Happier Zoe, happier me, happier baby, happier husband.
Even without any other children… Zoe gets more out of those mornings at school than I can give her on my own. No guilt. We’re both better for her having the social time.
And that first shot… oh my what a cutie!
Colleen’s last blog post..Best Shot Monday - It’s about time!
June 9th, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Your children need time with you and time with other kids and time alone. Do not feel bad. You are doing your best by giving your new baby special time with you, as I’m sure you gave your older son.
btw, they are both absolutely adorable!
Diane’s last blog post..When the ball gets rolling, how do you make it stop?
June 9th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
That first picture is quite literally one of the greatest snaps ever.
Amazing.
Ignore us. Tend them. We’ll survive, promise.
rachel’s last blog post..Mouthwatering Monday: Southern Fried Chicken
June 9th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
They look like 2 very happy kids. Don’t expect to be wonder mom to 2 kids so soon. It takes time, give yourself a break.
As rachel said, we’ll survive, we will miss you, but we will survive. Post a picture now and then to let us know your alive and well.
justmylife’s last blog post..Weekend Update
June 9th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
Oh sweetie….how can you feel guilty about trying to make your children happy?
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June 9th, 2008 at 11:15 pm
Just wanted to say I am/was in the exact same boat. My little guy is 2 months now. It will start to get better at about 6 weeks, either that or the guilt is normal…
For the first month my 2 1/2 year old stayed in daycare 3 days a week. I had the same rationale. Good for Lucas to socalize with kids rather then the TV and then I could bond with the baby (and watch the TV shows I want while nursing= =)
It will get better soon.
Jenn
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June 9th, 2008 at 11:19 pm
Here I am spreading some tough love your way - stop feeling guilty! Do what you can to stay sane and happy. Those sweet boys certainly don’t look like they’re suffering.
andi’s last blog post..More mouses in my houses
June 9th, 2008 at 11:28 pm
It’s ok hon. You are doing great! It hasn’t been that long yet! When Kyle was born, Ryan watched a lot of TV. It’s a time of transition for you…and it will get easier and better once Hudson isn’t nursing so much.
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June 10th, 2008 at 8:12 am
stop feeling guilty!!
this seems like the best thing for you, for Hudson and for Carter!
June 10th, 2008 at 10:11 am
adorable!
for what it’s worth, matt stayed in full time daycare 1 month after chloe was born. and i have now signed him up for a 1 morning per week program. my sanity is worth it. don’t feel guilty.
LD’s last blog post..Kindergarten
June 10th, 2008 at 10:56 am
That is all just part of being overwhelmed by a newborn. It will get easier once he gets a little bit older and in to more of a routine.
And yes, they ARE cute.
Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah’s last blog post..I’ve Got Plenty of Nothing
June 10th, 2008 at 10:56 am
You know, you’re lucky you can send him to nursery 3 days a week. I didn’t have the option and it was not fun - to the point I ended up with PPD.
Once little Hudson gets a bit older things will start to fall into place more easily. I know it’s difficult, but the hard days will start getting less and less, and things will get on track for you as a mummy of two!
They are absolutely gorgeous!
Marylin’s last blog post..Ah gotz mah kitteh!
June 10th, 2008 at 2:54 pm
I remember feeling the exact same way, especially in those first weeks. It’s impossible to find a balance, especially since one is SO much more needy of your time.
Promise that it gets easier. Balancing gets to be second nature.
Hang in there.
You DO have adorable boys!
Jennifer’s last blog post..Parenting styles and friendships
June 10th, 2008 at 4:15 pm
Yes, they are!
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