Comments on: My Husband is Not My Keeper http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/ Read it. Love it. Live it. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:13:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: samantha http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5117 samantha Wed, 15 Oct 2008 16:16:27 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5117 @<a href="http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/#comment-5095"> SciFi Dad</a>: We have separate accounts as well as a joint account for house related stuff...it seems more and more our money is pooled together though... Good for you for checking yourself. LOL @ SciFi Dad:

We have separate accounts as well as a joint account for house related stuff…it seems more and more our money is pooled together though…

Good for you for checking yourself. LOL

]]> By: SciFi Dad http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5095 SciFi Dad Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:34:39 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5095 My parents had this arrangement (separate accounts), and I saw how poorly it worked out for them. When it came time to make our arrangements, my wife and I talked about it and agreed to make it one big pot. Admittedly, sometimes I find myself <i>thinking</i> that some of the expenditures she makes are "wastes" of money, but then I think about the ones I make that she thinks are a waste and I check myself. <abbr><em>SciFi Dad´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TalesFromTheDadSide/~3/417381215/fuck.html">Fuck.</a></em></abbr> My parents had this arrangement (separate accounts), and I saw how poorly it worked out for them. When it came time to make our arrangements, my wife and I talked about it and agreed to make it one big pot.

Admittedly, sometimes I find myself thinking that some of the expenditures she makes are “wastes” of money, but then I think about the ones I make that she thinks are a waste and I check myself.

SciFi Dad´s last blog post..Fuck.

]]> By: Rhiannon http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5092 Rhiannon Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:59:14 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5092 Hi Sam, I was looking around for new blogging friends when I came across your post I totally agree with you, I go thru the very same thing all the time I know how it feels its horrible! I get into trouble even for buying something little for my daughter because apparently every $5 here an there adds up! But yet im buying her those things out of the payment I recieve FOR HER from the Government & I still get into Trouble So I hear your pain! Thanks Im happy to know im not the only Women going thru the same Troubles! Rhiannon Hi Sam, I was looking around for new blogging friends when I came across your post I totally agree with you, I go thru the very same thing all the time I know how it feels its horrible!

I get into trouble even for buying something little for my daughter because apparently every $5 here an there adds up! But yet im buying her those things out of the payment I recieve FOR HER from the Government & I still get into Trouble So I hear your pain!

Thanks Im happy to know im not the only Women going thru the same Troubles!

Rhiannon

]]> By: No Mother Earth http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5087 No Mother Earth Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:46:24 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5087 Husbands don't get that hair is very important. It's never "just hair". "Just Hair" is everything. <abbr><em>No Mother Earth´s last blog post..<a href="http://nomotherearth.blogspot.com/2008/10/thank-heaven-for-little-boys.html">Thank Heaven for Little Boys</a></em></abbr> Husbands don’t get that hair is very important. It’s never “just hair”. “Just Hair” is everything.

No Mother Earth´s last blog post..Thank Heaven for Little Boys

]]> By: Moon HalloranLeady http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5062 Moon HalloranLeady Sat, 11 Oct 2008 00:43:59 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5062 ohh just checked in...will look at the new hair :) smiling Moon <abbr><em>Moon HalloranLeady´s last blog post..<a href="http://analogmoon.wordpress.com/2008/10/10/is-there-steam-coming-out-of-my-ears/">Is there steam coming out of my ears?</a></em></abbr> ohh just checked in…will look at the new hair :)

smiling
Moon

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]]> By: Moon HalloranLeady http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5058 Moon HalloranLeady Fri, 10 Oct 2008 17:54:20 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5058 This is why I am now divorced from the asshat who treated me that way when I was at home. He did his best to belittle me and still does when he gets a chance. Meanwhile he continues to lose jobs and get behind in his mortgage. Yeah, and *I'm* the loser? Pulease! Now I have a wonderful man who treats me like the Goddess I am and never questions what I chose to do with *my* money. We pay the bills and keep separate bank accounts but there is no hard and fast rule over mine or his. We just *do*. Hang in there. And I bet your new hair is fabulous! Moon in MO <abbr><em>Moon HalloranLeady´s last blog post..<a href="http://analogmoon.wordpress.com/2008/10/05/uhm/">Coyote Ugly</a></em></abbr> This is why I am now divorced from the asshat who treated me that way when I was at home. He did his best to belittle me and still does when he gets a chance. Meanwhile he continues to lose jobs and get behind in his mortgage. Yeah, and *I’m* the loser? Pulease!

Now I have a wonderful man who treats me like the Goddess I am and never questions what I chose to do with *my* money. We pay the bills and keep separate bank accounts but there is no hard and fast rule over mine or his. We just *do*.

Hang in there. And I bet your new hair is fabulous!

Moon in MO

Moon HalloranLeady´s last blog post..Coyote Ugly

]]> By: Tricia http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5037 Tricia Thu, 09 Oct 2008 12:30:59 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5037 Stopping by from Mrs. Schmitty's. I couldn't agree with you more about personal independence. The incident you describe is classic domestic abuse. Belittling, verbal insults and financial control...you don't have to bleed to feel humiliated and abused, and it's wrong on every level. I'm so sorry that someone you love and trust would treat you this way and I wish you all the best. <abbr><em>Tricia´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Shoutdaily/~3/413428875/">I Survived Preschool</a></em></abbr> Stopping by from Mrs. Schmitty’s. I couldn’t agree with you more about personal independence. The incident you describe is classic domestic abuse. Belittling, verbal insults and financial control…you don’t have to bleed to feel humiliated and abused, and it’s wrong on every level. I’m so sorry that someone you love and trust would treat you this way and I wish you all the best.

Tricia´s last blog post..I Survived Preschool

]]> By: samantha http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5024 samantha Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:13:41 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5024 For those of you looking for pictures of my new hairs - they're on flickr... I linked it in the post. LOL Some people found it! tee hee I just didn't think flaunting the hairs went with the post is all. Love you all! For those of you looking for pictures of my new hairs – they’re on flickr… I linked it in the post. LOL Some people found it! tee hee

I just didn’t think flaunting the hairs went with the post is all.

Love you all!

]]> By: Haley-O http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5022 Haley-O Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:02:49 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5022 Aww! Sweety! I COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from. I started my own business, and started teaching yoga again, because I didn't like having to ask my husband for HIS money. It seems to only be OUR money when I want to spend it on something he doesn't agree with. Otherwise, he "gives me money". I HATE IT. It IS so degrading. And, between you and me? I've been wearing the same two pairs of lululemons for the past TWO YEARS day in and day out -- because the little money I make ends up going toward other things (like my book addiction AND, actually, groceries -- but books are less expensive than jeans, and the organic groceries I like to buy are a freaking boat load of expensive...), and I HATE asking for money. It's really quite sad. It's also sad that, because I'm a sahm, I can only teach so many yoga classes, you know? And, the ones I teach have to have daycare available, and I have to pay for that daycare. I also don't have the time to promote my art business properly, now do I? I think you've hit on a MAJOR issue for SO MANY of us sahms. <abbr><em>Haley-Os last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/CheatyMonkey/~3/408823602/">HUGE NEWS HUGE!</a></em></abbr> Aww! Sweety! I COMPLETELY understand where you’re coming from. I started my own business, and started teaching yoga again, because I didn’t like having to ask my husband for HIS money. It seems to only be OUR money when I want to spend it on something he doesn’t agree with. Otherwise, he “gives me money”. I HATE IT. It IS so degrading. And, between you and me? I’ve been wearing the same two pairs of lululemons for the past TWO YEARS day in and day out — because the little money I make ends up going toward other things (like my book addiction AND, actually, groceries — but books are less expensive than jeans, and the organic groceries I like to buy are a freaking boat load of expensive…), and I HATE asking for money. It’s really quite sad. It’s also sad that, because I’m a sahm, I can only teach so many yoga classes, you know? And, the ones I teach have to have daycare available, and I have to pay for that daycare. I also don’t have the time to promote my art business properly, now do I?

I think you’ve hit on a MAJOR issue for SO MANY of us sahms.

Haley-Os last blog post..HUGE NEWS HUGE!

]]> By: BigGirl http://www.temporarilyme.com/2008/10/07/my-husband-is-not-my-keeper/comment-page-1/#comment-5020 BigGirl Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:09:44 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1074#comment-5020 sorry about the whole husband thing, which totally sucks, but your bangs are super dang cute. <abbr><em>BigGirls last blog post..<a href="http://alwaysthebiggirl.blogspot.com/2008/10/my-new-life.html">My New Life</a></em></abbr> sorry about the whole husband thing, which totally sucks, but your bangs are super dang cute.

BigGirls last blog post..My New Life

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