Ever miss just making out? I do.
Like the making out that doesn’t really lead to anything else but raw lips and a stubble rash (okay, so I was making out with boys a lit-tle older then moi). The making out that makes you want to get. it. on… but you don’t? Ya, that making out.
At fifteen I was “dating” a nineteen year old, kinda. Regardless, we would make out, a lot and you know? It never got old. That’s the great part about being young and “in love”. The heart flutters when you see them, the rush of panic mixed with lust the first time you hold hands. The bubbling over with excitement when you experience your first kiss together.
Mike and I, we were like that when we first started dating, but it wasn’t so much about the making out as it was about the – well, you know. Like, ALL. THE. TIME.
[Okay, I was going to write crazy hot sex, but then got scared because OMG, what if a family member is secretly lurking on my blog? so I wrote "well, you know" and I'm pretty sure even if there was a family member lurking - they would understand what "well, you know" means. Duh.]
So. Crazy hot sex. We have had it. We were passionate. In love and always in each others arms.
Eight years have gone by and we’ve slowly subsided into that typical parent-like relationship. The obligatory kiss in the morning, when he returns home from work, when we go to bed. In fact, it’s less of a kiss than it is a peck on the lips. Without thought, feeling, emotion – it’s just a kiss.
A kiss should never be just a kiss when it’s between lovers. A kiss should be passionate, heartfelt and warm. It would evoke emotion and urges. It should be meant.
It’s difficult with young children, pulling at you every second, requiring constant attention, that won’t let you put them down, and have needs that must be met NOW!; they don’t realize that when their parents are trying to share an embrace in the kitchen while dinner is simmering that it’s the first time they’ve been in each other’s arms all month week.
Dammit, I want to be kissed. I want to make out with my husband and maybe have it lead to – well, you know – I want a romance novel like scene where I’m swept up in his arms and kissed hard and passionately. I want to wake up in the morning, spooning with my husband and not in a seperate bed with my infant son.
When I heard people complain about not having sex because there was no time or energy for it after having children I scoffed at them. What do you mean no time? There’s always time for sex! I was wrong. At least with small children, sex is just about the furthest thing from my mind.
I’ve tried to explain this to Mike by telling him that as soon as my head hits that pillow I want to nestle into its soft warm-y goodness and doze off to la-la-land rather than have my head banging off the headboard to which he responded: We can do it somewhere else then. The couch? The floor? On top of the washer?
[Okay, and here I was worried about lurking family reading about hot sex. Stoopid.]
You know what would be more appealing to sex at this moment? Having the laundry washed and put away. The dish washer unloaded; the carpets vacuumed. That would be on the verge of orgasmic for me right now.
Maybe he could dress like a Chip n’ Dale. Then we’ll talk about sex on the washer.
Kill two birds with one stone, no?
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i think i only liked making out as a teenager because there was this sort of thrilling risk involved. there’s no risk once you’re married. plus…i have this thing with tongues. hahah.
ali´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Omg…uh…we are teenagers then. We still make out like there’s no tomorrow and f*ck like rabbits. But you knew that.
There was a time when my kids were smaller that there was NO WAY. But then we started ‘dating’ again, once a week and remembered why we fell in love. You know, his big …
nevermind. I’ve said too much already.
Karen Sugarpants´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
I totally know what you mean.
mamatulip´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Try this…(since we’re talking about it anyway)
Try doing everything except ‘it’ one night. It’s fun.
Karen Sugarpants´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Oh I know your complaint all to well – after four kids it took awhile to get back to the make out stage – but we’ve arrived back at the good ole days! Try what Karen Sugarpants recommends – it works! (and verrrrry fun!)
shannah´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Oh the anticipation of see *him* looking at you, and when they try to come and kiss you and… yes, I remember. Even though I am not very old, nor are you… I’m still a newlywed, and with no children and we don’t even get crazy… like we used to. He works afternoons from 3-11, and the last thing I want to do when I have to get up at 5:15 is do the hanky panky at midnight/1am when he gets home… so that leaves it to the weekends and… oh dear…
Something terrible happened!
Krystle´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
I’ve tried to explain this to my husband so many times. He resents like hell that sex isn’t “easy” for me anymore – and I don’t know how to explain to him that it’s not HIM, it’s ME.
Miss Britt´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
See, and explaining that you just want to make out is hard. J usually gets all gung-ho and then I HATE being the one who always throws cold water on things, but Dude! The kids are up!
(we hide in the bathroom. With the door locked. And a five minute timer. And kiss. The kids think I get a lot of splinters.)
daysgoby´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Thomas and I have our problems for sure, but I make sure we kiss for real before he goes to work and when he gets home, if no other time. It’s important! If you put your passion on the back burner it’s going to get cold.
Believe me, I know it’s hard, but when you get in the bed at night, try not to think about how tired you are. It like exercise or housework. If you think about it, it’s just too hard, but if you just let go, you’ll have tons of fun!
I’m not trying to preach or anything. We’re lucky if we have sex 3 times a week. Just offering my opinion. =)
Wendy´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
I totally miss making out. And I’m not even married nor do I have kids.
Does that make me pathetic?
sizzle´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
I was just thinking about making out the other day, and how it used to give me tingles up my spine and through my fingertips. And I miss it. But am so tired and tired and yadda yadda…it gets put to the back burner.
Pass the chocolate, people!
Mrs. Mustard´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
What’s with the comment love being all wacked-out? Did we ALL write this post?
Mrs. Mustard´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
I wish I had better advice, Sam, but I think you might just enjoy this site today.
Assertagirl´s last blog post..Let’s Make Out Like We’re 16 Year Old Virgins
Totally understand what you are talking about. We have been through that too…very recently. In fact, the “routine” of our daily lives led us into a very dangerous path recently…to the point we almost lost our marriage. Not good. I pray it doesn’t get to that point for you.
What we have done to rectify that? What have we done to put more passion in our marriage while still having demanding small children and energy sucking jobs? Lots of effort!! And new furniture. LOL We got new living room furniture a few weeks ago and it’s been very fun christianing it
Part of it is just making the effort with each other. I’ve noticed that if I make an effort to look good…make up, dressier clothes, actually caring about how I look, it makes him want to be with me more. I do more around the house….little extra things, and it shows I care and am putting an effort into the house and things he cares about, which in turn makes him want to do things for me. Sometimes it’s just the little things.
How about when the kids are busy for a second, just go up to him and grab him the shirt and give him a passionate smooch? sometimes when the kids aren’t watching I let my hand wander…if you know what I mean. Obviously it wouldn’t lead to anything at that point in time, but it’s a small way to know he’s still wanted.
If you want to talk, email me hon. We’ve had a very rough time in the last month….been where you were and it led to bad things. We are still in the process of repairing and learning how to get that first love feeling back. Unfortunately there is no easy answer or fix…it takes a lot of time and work.
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I finally got to make out with hubby a couple of weeks ago after a long dry period of not making out. When kids arrive it turns into WAM, BAM,THANK YOU MA’AM and the making out part gets tossed to the side for quick and easy. Little Miss is 9 now and we still have a hard time finding the time.
justmylife´s last blog post..The Guidance Counselor from Hell!
My guy doesn’t like to make out and it KILLS me, I would almost rather that than sex.
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@ Assertagirl:
OMG AMY!!!! That site is fantastic! I love you! LOL
I hear you. While I hate to say I want to rush babyhood because I’m realizing it’s easier this time around, there are times I can’t wait for my Bun to grow up into his own room and longer sleeps so we have the time and energy for any of that! He’s just 7.5 weeks, i know, but I do miss having even a good cuddle.
kittenpie´s last blog post..Little Ladies Who (Need) Lunch
I tell my hubs the same thing. When he cleans (which is RARE) it makes me HOT!
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okay, so im 16..totally in love with my boyfriend!
we always make out when we’re together, or we play around.
we’re both virgins, and don’t want to have sex until we’re both ready, he knows i don’t want sex for awhile. but if you guys want the love, sex or passion put back into your life tease him a bit…..have him take a day off when the kids are at school…..sneak out of your room, with maybe some sexy lingerie, then walk over to the bedroom door, yeaa..that might actually work.
when cleaning makes you “HOT” that’s kinda sad…but totally have him clean house if he has a hot body to dress in just his boxers or underwear…walk around and clean the house….then start like talking to him…not about cleaning but talk dirty to him. be like i like the way you sweep that floor when you move your hips the way you do. or something. lol.
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