There’s nothing more frustrating than to see someone special bear so much and not be able to help. I can’t take away the pain, frustration and heartache. I can’t make things better. All I can do is wait. Wait and hope that they will reach out, knowing that I am there wanting to support them.
*They* say that God doesn’t give you more than you can take. I am having a difficult time believing that these days, because even if it is true, why does God want someone to suffer at all?
I’m not a religious person even though I have been baptized Catholic. I haven’t taken my first communion or been to church except when I visit my grandparents. I’ve never used faith to get me through a tough time. That being said, I don’t know how I could pray or look up to ‘someone’ who has caused so much pain and suffering for friends and family so dear to me.
I really have no idea where I am going with this. I’m lost, confused and upset. There has to be some cosmic reason for all this pain in 2009. I just can’t understand it.
From the very first day of this year many people, including myself, have been surrounded by hurt, pain and horrible situations. There is nothing I can do but sit here helpless, as a plume of sadness, heartache and insurmountable pain clouds those I love. I just can’t understand WHY? It’s likely I’m not supposed to ‘get it’ as God has a plan for everyone (so they say).
I want to understand.
I want to know.
I want to make it stop.
Please, just make it stop.
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That’s 100% exactly how I feel. I wish so badly we had the power to take pain like this away. You are such a good friend – we are all very lucky to have you.
Oh Sweetie…
I don’t know what’s going on, but let me know if there is anything I can do.
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I, too, struggle with this. I’ve come to the conclusion that God isn’t causing pain and suffering in the world, because a God who purposefully inflicts pain wouldn’t be a loving God. Instead, I try to remember that earth isn’t heaven, so life here is raw, unfair, scary, and painful.
I’m so sorry for the pain you and your loved ones are feeling. Please keep us posted so that we can walk beside you while you are hurting.
Warmly, Lynn
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The why’s are hard. Real hard. I wish I had something better to say.
What the heck, Mama?
What can I do?
I’m here for you.
My dad died when I was almost 7. Until then I had a very sweet and REAL faith in God. The day my dad died, that relationship with God died too. Infact it completely vaporized any belief I had and I’ve never gained it back. I tried. Many times. But it’s gone.
Watching friends suffer is agony. It’s hard not to be able to make someone feel better – because that’s what you’re supposed to do when you love someone; protect them and shelter them from hurt. I sucks to feel like you can’t, like nothing will be… enough.
I can only offer you advice to BE there. Don’t wait to be called upon. Simple gestures.. . a call, a card, a note, flowers, a brief moment to say you care and you’re thinking of them – THAT goes very, very, far in helping someone cope with the un-copeable.
Hang in there.
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I’m new to this whole “religious” thing, didn’t really get into it until I was pregnant with my now 3 year old. I rarely go to church now at all (use my 3 kids as an excuse for not getting there, pathetic, really) but I do believe that God is great and has nothing but love for us. Have I experienced pain? You betcha! But Maybe without a God it would have actually been more unbearable? I don’t know. I would like to ask you to please read a book, called “The Shack” by William P. Young. It is just one authors take on God and pain and love, but it is powerful and could really help you out. As for your friends, don’t fade away and wait for them to come to you, keep offering your love and support and they will… when they are ready. I, too, am here if you need anything!
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I wish the same thing almost all of the time….we’ve all been through so much and we all deserve just one freaking month of pure sunshine!
I get the feeling that there is more behind this post than I understand. Hope everything is (relatively) okay.
xx
I know how you feel. I know a few people who are forced to deal with more pain and struggle than any one person should have to endure. And even more who have suffered through a long string of bad luck, waiting for that silver lining that has yet to show up.
It’s not fair. And there’s often little we can do to help.
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