Comments on: Hey Momversation: Let’s Talk About REAL Working Moms For a Second

By: Mrs BN

Mrs BN — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:18:46 +0000

I end up taking my kids to the office when they’re ill. I’m too guilt ridden not to be at work and end up being a bad parent instead. I have a great boss who let me work from home once for 3 days when my youngest was way too ill to either be at work or at childcare and even that sucked. The guilt of not being at work and leaving that office empty? Just as bad.

I am a person who strives to do the best for everyone that I possibly can and invariably it’s me that misses out. I see that but unfortunately I am too busy juggling all the balls and trying to keep everyone happy. I see my kids for about 90 minutes, 5 days a week and that sucks. But I don’t have a choice. Trust me I really don’t. I leave work ‘early’ sometimes – as in ‘not 90 minutes late’ so that I can have some time with them in the evening. They’re spending 10 hours a day in a nursery. Then I end up logging on to work from home to finish other stuff I could have/should have stayed late to do. Because my employers chose to make half my staff redundant.

Everything is hard. When you have kids? Normal life becomes difficult. Sub-normal becomes difficult and we all become superheroes. Everybody’s circumstances are different and everyone will have to back down at some point when we’re competing for who has it worse. Does Sam have to take her kids to the office? No – but I have done. Am I better?
I only have one job. Does that make me worse? Better? I only have two kids and not four so am I a worse mother? Or a clever one? I give up.

I do know that this was an honest post and a heart felt one where it was bound to provoke feelings but there wasn’t a single part of this post that I didn’t agree with. Rah Rah Sam

ps I had to comment here because it was all closed off … not a personal attack.

By: Allie

Allie — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:19:19 +0000

Yay Fina!!! Your hit the nail on the head when you asked her when the last time she had to take her kids to the office..

By: shawna

shawna — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:38:38 +0000

My youngest seems to resent my being home because of the lack of money for the things that he is constantly wanting. I never would have thought it possible. I assumed all kids would prefer their mothers home, and he says he does like me being home with him… but that if my being at work would allows us to have more money than he would definitely prefer that… and we are not necessarily struggling either; we just have to budget.

By: shawna

shawna — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:35:21 +0000

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People might be a good read for you… if you can squeeze it in.

I work in the crisis mode all the time.

This is what this book is about… it could help your business

By: Jackie

Jackie — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 20:31:03 +0000

Amen. The guilt alone is something WAHMs can’t even begin to fathom. (And no, not all WOHMs have the choice to be a WAHM. Not by a long shot.) WOHMs have so very many people to please, so many more logistical problems than WAHMs, so many fewer options when the fit hits the shan (when a child is sick, or when a sitter doesn’t show, or when daycare is closed for a snowday). WOHMs don’t get to go to the school play, we don’t get to homeschool our kids, we don’t get the flexibility of working around what we need to work around. No, being a WAHM, hard as it is, just doesn’t compare. Being a WOHM is being in a constant state of terror–a shoe could drop at any time.

By: Krystle @snarkykisses

Krystle @snarkykisses — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:34:08 +0000

Haaaa!! hilarious… love it And that used to be my favorite show, thankyouverymuch. Heh!

By: moosh in indy.

moosh in indy. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:11:30 +0000

So here’s the thing.
I “work” from home.
But my kid gets invited over to friends houses, I can ask for help when I really need it. And I do, I’m not ashamed that there’s times that I need help and my kid needs a break from me.
But when you work out of the home you don’t get a break without jeopardizing your work life, as you well know.
My mom was single and worked her ass of, I never envied her one bit, but I always did (and still do) admire her.

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Wed, 01 Jul 2009 15:57:48 +0000

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By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:54:13 +0000

“Let’s talk about being a REAL working mom shall we? Not this fluff about working from home because I’ve been there too. I’ve too worked from home, designing, freelance writing, and trying to manage my house at the same time. I was doing what I could to keep us afloat while home with my children.”
You implied that we basically freelance and make no money. Which we don’t all freelance, you can’t make a good living off of freelancing.

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:49:35 +0000

Oh we got your point, “a fucking joke”. Doesn’t get any clearer than that. You can’t say that then say you were on both sides of this argument.