Comments on: I Just Want to be Heard

By: Deidra

Deidra — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:43:48 +0000

Go ahead and yell. Children easily forgive and they instinctively know you are blowing off steam. Big Point: I apologize every night to my kids when I tuck them in and explain why Mommy goes crazy some(most)times. My kids are now 7, 9, and 11. When they were 0, 2, 4…(shudder)… I wanted to cry all the time. How I survived: TAKE THEM TO THE PLAYGROUND every day between the hours of 4:00 – 5:30 p.m. Rain or snow – who cares. Those are the witching hours and will drive you bonkers if you are inside with THEM. Second point: Have pancakes for dinner…!

By: Kristen

Kristen — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 03:00:05 +0000

My kids went to Grandma and Grandpas for a week. It was just me and my 2 month old at home and I was so pleased with how calm I felt all week. I didn’t have to raise my voice once.

I vowed on the day I went to pick the 3 up that the yelling would stop. Then, my 3 year old walked in the door and it went right out the window and I became the Yelly mommy. She did everything she could to push my buttons and then her cry… OMG this child has the loudest most annoying cry ever. I love her dearly, I really do, but I can TOTALLY relate to what you wrote here!

By: Dave

Dave — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:11:33 +0000

My sone is TWO and argues about the EXACT same things. I’m not convinced yet that he understands the days of the week, so I let that slide. But the shoe thing, and colours? Oh yeah.

Ultimately, I don’t go past two suggestions that he’s wrong. He gets stubbornness from both side of the family, so I don’t argue about it.

By: jodifur

jodifur — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:49:59 +0000

Yes, yes, yes. Everyone told me 4 was better and they lied, lied, lied. 4 is terrible. 2 and 3 were better. He is the worst behaved he has ever been and I am done.

Sorry for the rant on your blog.

By: Cara

Cara — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 03:17:57 +0000

(Ali @ mylifewiththem) sent me here.

I totally relate to the yelling. My 2yo must have been born with built-in ear plugs. Couple that with stubbornness like no other & a 9mo who also needs my constant attention, mix in a little separation anxiety, add a dash of I can do it meseeeeeffff, & the yelling seems to come more easily than I’d like. I’ve been told that I might want to ask my doctor to put me in a coma til she’s 5 so I can skip through the rest of these “I can’t hear you” days. And I second the poster above…thank goodness my neighbors keep their windows closed (and are at work all day).

By: Country-Fried Mama

Country-Fried Mama — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 00:49:50 +0000

All of this scares the hell out of me, because my formerly sweet angel is only three. She and I had a 10-minute argument this afternoon about whether a picture of a kitty cat in her book was or was not actually a dog. Ridiculous.

I have never been a yeller, but I am finding myself grateful that all my neighbors are sealed into their air-conditioned homes…no open windows when it’s 95 degrees.

By: Theresa

Theresa — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 12:29:03 +0000

Um…I have.

By: Boy Crazy

Boy Crazy — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 04:44:17 +0000

One thing to keep in mind is that there is a difference in yelling to them and yelling at them. I yell all the time. More than I’d like. But I am yelling things like “I’M GOING ABSOLUTELY CRAZY AND YOU NEED TO STOP HITTING YOUR BROTHER OR I WILL GO COMPLETELY INSANE” rather than “YOU LITTLE PIECE OF SHIT BLAH BLAH ETC BLAH”. I think there’s a difference. Just think of it as volume.

I also come from a long line of yellers. I’d like to break the mold, but it is hard. Those of us who are expressive people tend to yell when we get worked up. I have learned to accept the difference I mentioned, and at the same time I’m trying to yell less.

It’s a shame our neighbors’ don’t hear us when we’re being nice parents.

By: Haley-O

Haley-O — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:41:08 +0000

Omg, I am in the SAME BOAT. It’s AWFUL. AW. FUL. Monkey will be 4 at the end of July.

3, and even 2, were a walk in the park compared to this. I’m THIS close to buying a parenting book. Because AT WITS END.

I’ve been wanting to write about my “4″ trials, but other things keep coming up. I’ve also been hoping this will subside, but it keeps getting worse….

By: Beauty, the Blogging Dog

Beauty, the Blogging Dog — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 21:04:24 +0000

I hear ya! Been there, and still doing it. I thought before that I totally damaged my daughter’s self-esteem when I screamed at her lotsa-lotsa times when she hit the terrible two’s or whenever we have a battle of wills. She’s 7 now and she’s a well-adjusted achiever, so the point is, don’t feel bad. We as moms are just perfectly normal human beings reacting with yells when kids don’t cooperate as we wish them to do, not perfect like God who can always deal with compassion. Kids are resilient and there’ll come a point in time when you can talk to them rationally (say ages 5.66 and above), and you can threaten them to listen or else you’ll scream (most often than not, they’ll choose to cooperate rather than being screamed at).