Comments on: Failed http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/ Rocking the boat since 1981. Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:49:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: MommyGeekology http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7868 MommyGeekology Mon, 10 Aug 2009 19:22:40 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7868 It's not your fault. We love you. He loves you. You are a good mother. Unfortunately, no mother can protect her child from everything. Praying that it's not as bad as you think. Praying that if it is, that you and your family will come through relatively unscathed. It’s not your fault.

We love you. He loves you. You are a good mother. Unfortunately, no mother can protect her child from everything.

Praying that it’s not as bad as you think.

Praying that if it is, that you and your family will come through relatively unscathed.

]]> By: Elisa http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7817 Elisa Sun, 02 Aug 2009 15:29:36 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7817 Oh, Sam, that awful. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. But please, please do not tell yourself you failed your child - I know as moms we always feel guilty for anything that might have hurt our kids, even when the sense of guilt is unfounded - but you couldn't have known. You are not to blame for trusting this person. Decent people cannot imagine evil. We just don't see it in people because we don't have it in ourselves. I hope and pray this all gets sorted out and you and your family can get past it. The guilty party, however, if it is a guilty party, I really hope they get what they deserve. And if this is true, they surely do not deserve anything good. Oh, Sam, that awful. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. But please, please do not tell yourself you failed your child – I know as moms we always feel guilty for anything that might have hurt our kids, even when the sense of guilt is unfounded – but you couldn’t have known.
You are not to blame for trusting this person. Decent people cannot imagine evil. We just don’t see it in people because we don’t have it in ourselves.

I hope and pray this all gets sorted out and you and your family can get past it. The guilty party, however, if it is a guilty party, I really hope they get what they deserve. And if this is true, they surely do not deserve anything good.

]]> By: momtrolfreak http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7814 momtrolfreak Sat, 01 Aug 2009 19:21:38 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7814 I cannot even imagine how you must feel right now, though you are heartbreakingly eloquent in describing it. You have NOT failed your child. There is no way to know these things. Predators are able to do what they do precisely because they are so good at earning trust (of children and adults). You cannot foresee every eventuality, all you can do is be there for your child and do your best to minimize the damage (if any). You are a great mom and are raising a great kid. You will get through this. I cannot even imagine how you must feel right now, though you are heartbreakingly eloquent in describing it. You have NOT failed your child. There is no way to know these things. Predators are able to do what they do precisely because they are so good at earning trust (of children and adults). You cannot foresee every eventuality, all you can do is be there for your child and do your best to minimize the damage (if any). You are a great mom and are raising a great kid. You will get through this.

]]> By: Diana http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7812 Diana Sat, 01 Aug 2009 14:06:59 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7812 Sam, I am so sorry I didn't see this sooner. You are a wonderful mother and you have not failed. I am crying for you and sick. I can't imagine what you are going through, just know that this is. not. your. fault. If there is anything you need, don't hesitate to ask. Even if just a shoulder. Our thoughts are with you and Carter. Sam, I am so sorry I didn’t see this sooner. You are a wonderful mother and you have not failed. I am crying for you and sick. I can’t imagine what you are going through, just know that this is. not. your. fault.

If there is anything you need, don’t hesitate to ask. Even if just a shoulder.

Our thoughts are with you and Carter.

]]> By: PrincessJenn http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7809 PrincessJenn Sat, 01 Aug 2009 01:06:10 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7809 OMG sweetie. Just catching (once again) on posts and saw this. GAH. I can't imagine what you're going through. Hugest hugs for you. OMG sweetie. Just catching (once again) on posts and saw this. GAH. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Hugest hugs for you.

]]> By: ali http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7808 ali Fri, 31 Jul 2009 23:51:53 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7808 you have not failed him, hon. no. no. no. no. thinking of you, love. :) you have not failed him, hon. no. no. no. no.

thinking of you, love. :)

]]> By: Issa http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7806 Issa Fri, 31 Jul 2009 21:14:03 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7806 I know that I'm late in reading this post...gah, I still have 128 to read...but you haven't failed him. We only fail them if we do nothing about it. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this in any way and I hope to god nothing happened to your son. But you haven't failed him. Truly. And there is no way to know. We do our best as parents, to keep our kids safe, to only leave them with people we trust, but there's no guarantees. Trust me on this one. I know that I’m late in reading this post…gah, I still have 128 to read…but you haven’t failed him. We only fail them if we do nothing about it.

I’m so sorry that you have to go through this in any way and I hope to god nothing happened to your son. But you haven’t failed him. Truly.

And there is no way to know. We do our best as parents, to keep our kids safe, to only leave them with people we trust, but there’s no guarantees. Trust me on this one.

]]> By: jennifer, playgroups are no place for children http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7802 jennifer, playgroups are no place for children Fri, 31 Jul 2009 17:45:07 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7802 JESUS CHRIST, Sam! How scary, I'm so, so sorry. Like 20 million people before me said, it's NOT your fault, YOU didn't fail. I'm so sorry. JESUS CHRIST, Sam! How scary, I’m so, so sorry. Like 20 million people before me said, it’s NOT your fault, YOU didn’t fail.

I’m so sorry.

]]> By: maggie, dammit http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7796 maggie, dammit Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:12:26 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7796 OHMYGOD SAM. Ohmygod. Oh, honey. I'm so so so so so so sorry. But listen to me, you DID NOT FAIL. You did not do anything wrong. Ohhhhhh, damn. I'm so sorry, love. :( :( :( OHMYGOD SAM.

Ohmygod.

Oh, honey. I’m so so so so so so sorry.

But listen to me, you DID NOT FAIL. You did not do anything wrong.

Ohhhhhh, damn. I’m so sorry, love. :( :( :(

]]> By: Kelley http://www.temporarilyme.com/2009/07/28/failed-my-child/#comment-7792 Kelley Fri, 31 Jul 2009 05:37:42 +0000 http://www.temporarilyme.com/?p=1886#comment-7792 Again...not your fault. As a former molestation victim, this is something I think my mother could've written. Except in my case, it was a friend's brother and most of the incidences occurred while my mom was in the house. I hope nothing did happen, I hope that this is one huge misunderstanding, but don't be afraid to reach out to calm your fears even before the truth is known. We all did counseling for YEARS after my mom found out. But it helped her to have an outlet. Being a parent it f*cking scary and we can all just do our best. Because you know and you care, you're doing great. *hugs* Again…not your fault. As a former molestation victim, this is something I think my mother could’ve written. Except in my case, it was a friend’s brother and most of the incidences occurred while my mom was in the house. I hope nothing did happen, I hope that this is one huge misunderstanding, but don’t be afraid to reach out to calm your fears even before the truth is known.

We all did counseling for YEARS after my mom found out. But it helped her to have an outlet.

Being a parent it f*cking scary and we can all just do our best. Because you know and you care, you’re doing great.

*hugs*

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