I Promise It’s Not All About Hockey

1993 I was twelve and obsessed with hockey. Though my love stemmed from a crush on a high school goalie for our town’s Junior C team, who was seven years my senior, I fell madly for the Toronto Maple Leafs goalie, Felix Potvin: number 29.

I would watch every televised game until I was summoned for bedtime. At that time, I would plug in my headphones, lie on my back and visualize the game as it played out in my ears. I rarely made it through to the end of the third period. I would awake the following morning, or later that evening, to a tangled mess of wire wrapper precariously around my face and neck, ear buds strewn across the bed, I would scramble to get them back in my ears to catch the end of the game or the score on the morning new cast.

I knew most of the stats about the major players and I followed the playoff rankings without abandon. I was a force to be reckon with amongst my class of hormonal know-it-all preteen boys. I think they may have believed it was my plight to be noticed, to be one of them - hence my newfound love for the game: that was not the case.

I was in love with the game of hockey.

I don’t think my dad was ever so proud of me as he was when we had hockey to share.

Over the years my love dwindled. Felix was traded. The Leafs changed, as did I.

I still enjoy the game, though it’s not like I remembered. There isn’t the thrill of the game as there was, but more so embarassment for so-called men that now play the game.

Four years ago the game changed.

Four years ago Todd Bertuzzi sucker punched Steve Moore from behind, breaking his neck, giving him a concussion and ending his professional hockey career.

This week Mr. Bertuzzi flied a lawsuit against his former coach.

In part his lawsuit states that the coach:

“failed to exercise control over and caution his players against physical aggression toward Moore when he knew or ought to have known that this was likely to result in injury to Moore.”

In short Bertuzzi is filing claim that his former coach should have had more control over his players and has gone so far as to claim that he was “contractually bound” to follow the alleged request of his former coach.

Tell me. At which point in one’s life does someone feel compelled to blame their physical actions upon someone else? There is no one in charge of making someone harm another human being, but oneself. How does someone feel they can justifiably claim that another person is responsible for their actions? How can Todd Bertuzzi claim - with a straight face - that his actions were because he was “contractually bound” to bring physical harm to another player?

While playing football in high school Mike was requested by his coach to spear one of his opponents. To bring harm to a fellow high school student with the intent of taking him out of the game.

Mike said no.

He risked his high school football career, the friendships he’s acquired over time, the admiration of fellow students and players… for what was right.

He knew what was right.

He knew to say no.

He took responsibility for his actions.

He stopped playing football after that game.

Bertuzzi refuses to take the consequences of his own actions but instead is trying to pin those actions on someone else.

How can he say he’s remorseful for what he did to Steve Moore, then turn around and sue someone else for what he’s done? Doesn’t sound very remorseful to me.

Is society so far gone that we longer have to accept responsibility for our own actions? So far gone that we can sue someone else for our actions?

This Post is Rated R for Coarse Language, Viewer Discretion is Advised

“Who’s there?” questioned a stout little boy. His hair was cut short, his pants torn and dirty.

Who’s there?” he questioned again, slightly irritated.

My brother, just three at the time, and I, four, just stood there, silent. We had, moments ago, stepped foot in our new home and were in the midst of investigating our tiny backyard as this boy approached, trying precariously to catch a glimpse of us through the wooden fence as he perched himself atop the bottom brace.

“You new here?” The voice asked, “Hey, hey you. You gonna answer me?”
Another voice in the distance called for the boy to get off the fence, mom and dad wanted him to come in the house.

FUCK OFF!” the young boy yelled.

The first time a swear word had befell on my ears.

I was befuddled; I stared at my brother, scared. This young boy - my age, had said something with such hatred in his voice. I was a little anxious for our first face to face. Seemingly unbiased to this recent confrontation, my brother reached for the sagging pull string attached to the rusty latch and pulled. The gate swung open revealing the stout little boy and his, presumably, older sister running towards us.

“You’re the new kids?” she questioned as she approached, appearing to be less hostile then her brother, I nodded.

“What does fuck mean?” My brother questioned.

“It’s a bad word, but fun to say - it’s like go away!” stated the boy.

And so it began.

From that day on, I’ve had somewhat of a trucker’s mouth.

I was given a daily suspension in grade one for yelling “FUCK OFF!” on the playground - which also resulted in a parent/teacher conference. Not cool.

At ten years old, I was given another suspension from day camp for telling the camp leader to “Go Fuck Yourself“.

My mouth has been relentlessly getting me in trouble.

As you may have noticed while reading this blog, I tend to swear a fair bit. But one thing that I’ve never really understood - probably because of my parent’s influence - is why people use fake swear words to substitute the words they really mean.

Facking, freaking (or typing f*$king) is just as bad as saying Fucking in my books. When it’s said with the full intention of the actual word, why not just use the real word? I completely understand not wanting to use the off-colour language in front of children, but words that allude to the swear that you’re intentionally not saying are not any better, are they?

For myself, if I’m in a situation / writing something / or talking to someone that I know swearing is not acceptable, I will intentional not swear, but I will not use words that allude to the ones I am avoiding using since they are not justifiably any better then the intended curse word.

Just my prerogative.

I’m curious though, and I’m not pointing fingers nor intending to belittle those that use these “fake” curse words, or type out the word with &@(*&, I really am just curious as to why this action is considered better.

Thanks Lexi for the comic!

For the most part, I’ve noticed in our vast blogging communities that the majority are of age. Adults. We all know the considerable array of curse words that exist: some choose not to swear at all - which is completely fine by me - some swear and have no qualms about it, while some seem to be on the fence. They intend to swear but choose not to by insinuating what word they would use had they chose to use it.

Is it fear of offending readers? Upbringing? Social circles?

Colour me fucking confused.

i wish they were my friends

I don’t think I’ve ever seen something so fantastic. I would cherish this video forever, if it were mine.

Hell, I may even cherish theirs.

people, there is nothing wrong with 40. now stop grinding your dentures.

My latest confessed crush has turned into an obsession.

Yes, Criss Angel ladies and gentlemen.

And, with my past confession post, comments from the older crowd (please, you know I don’t mean it!) seemed a little offended when I was SHOCKED! that Criss was in fact, turning 40 this year.

People, I said he was doable. That’s a GOOD thing. 40 is the new 30, it’s great to be 40, especially when you’re HAWT like Criss. But! when he is 14 years my senior it *could* turn heads, bring a lot of cradle robber comments to the forefront.

Tis all I meant my dear over the hill friends. Perhaps it is YOU that has issues with being 40, not me. *tee hee*

I’m just sayin’.

[Please direct your hate comments and emails to: getagripATgmailDOTcom. P.S. That's not a real address that I own, so you'll be sending your hate to someone unfortunate soul.]

So yeah, Criss…

*sigh* YUM!
Where was I? Oh, yes.

As I may have mentioned before, we are taking a vacation over the Christmas holidays - sans child that is not in my tummy - to Las Vegas where we will be over New Years Eve. I am so stinkin’ excited! I’ve officially begun to strategically plan my stalking of said illusionist at the Luxor hotel.

I have an idea of where he’s most likely to be found, where he lives (which is in the penthouse of the Luxor) and how I could cop a feel dry hump is leg get a hug shake his hand.

[If he ever ventures upon this while on the internet in the next 18 to 20 days, I may have to rethink my plan as there may be increased security around him, let's hope not.]

Mike’s been on this kick lately (since our sex life has dried up to about once every 2 months since I’ve been sick) where he jokes about getting a Mistress. I said I was alright with it as long as I could have a boyfriend or even a one night stand.

I mentioned that he was one of the most jealous guys I’ve ever met and it would drive him bat shit crazy if I happened to sit down and chat with a very hot man while we were in Vegas.

Mike looked at me and said: Sam, Criss is not going to sit and shoot the shit with you. You’re probably not even going to see him there. Get over it.

He knows me so well.

I played it up like I wasn’t talking about Criss at all.

But I so was.

A girl can dream, can’t she?

Did I mention I haven’t bought One. Single. Christmas gift yet?

Yeah, starting to freak out a little.

But! I have lights on my house and I have a tree and the Christmas music station tuned in the car. I’m getting there.

By the time I’m actually there, Christmas may be well over and I’ll be on a plane heading to see my Angel.

You think I could get him drunk enough to marry me in a drive thru wedding chapel?

Hmmm…. off to do more planning…..

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